Anecdotal Evidence

வீட்ல பெரியவங்கள்ட்ட சொல்லி சுத்தி போட சொல்லுங்க “It is not true that the more you love, the better you understand; all that the action of love obtains from me is merely this wisdom: that the other is not to be known; his opacity is not the screen around a secret, but. instead, a kind of evidence in which the game of reality and appearance' is done away with. I am then seized with that exaltation of loving someone unknown, someone who will re main so forever”  ― Roland Barthes, A Lover's Discourse: Fragments

Searching for information on Blanche Gardin returned little. Finally found this nugget from an 2015 interview: Gardin : In a few years we will all be living alone, because it will be unbearable living with "the other", as "otherness" will become unbearable. That is why couples break-up after three months, because we can longer deal with otherness.  We are convinced we are the centre of the universe, that we are the best possible version of the human being. So living with someone becomes impossible, obviously.  Even self-help books will say, " You need to love yourself before you can love others ". That's bullshit. Life is the opposite of that! You first have to open to others. It's your relationship to others that define you. And then maybe you may be able to love yourself. We really have it backwards.  And if we keep heading in that direction, in a few years or in a few generations, we'll all be living alone in our apartments, with mi...

“…in general, the young have the kindness to conceal the facts from those to whom they would cause pain. Writers who proclaim the facts are thought by the old to be libelling the young, though the young remain unconscious of being libelled.” - Bertrand Russell, Marriage and Morals In his 2015 stand-up special, ‘Live at the Comedy Store’ , Louis CK has a routine where he speaks about parents dealing with their teenage daughters’ impending sexual awakening. In that routine, Louis ribs his fellow parents who are overwrought with anxiety at having to deal with the topic. He excepts himself from the predicament by claiming that the answer to ‘what should the parent's role be?’ is‘ nothing ’: “Not advisory, supportive. Just stay out of it.” He delivers the lines with his signature style of apparent spontaneity.  It is this specific aspect of his art, along with his stand-apart histrionics that elicit the laugh here, without actually resolving the conflict in the joke’s set-up....

There is no means of testing which decision is better, because there is no basis for comparison. We live everything as it comes, without warning, like an actor going on cold. And what can life be worth if the first rehearsal for life is life itself? - Milan Kundera (The Unbearable Lightness of Being) "Alternatives only exclude" says Bobby Dorfman (Jesse Eisenberg) to Vonnie -short for Veronica (Kristen Stewart) who ended up choosing his uncle (Steve Carrell) over him. He says that in CentralPark after spending a night taking her around NewYork City. The NewYork he had urged her move with him to, abandoning the California where they met. The California, which she too had then mentioned she wasn't getting much out of. But apparently her disfascination wasn't as strong as is. And/or her considerations were different and she has managed to embrace her choices better. So, who is Bobby saying the lines to, if not to himself - aloud?